It Takes Two To Three Years To Learn How To Speak, But It Take A Whole Life To Learn What To Speak. :)
It use to be believed that language was a mirror of reality, an attempt to articulate what was already "out there" in the world. But recently, there has been a great deal of research that proves that it actually works the other way-the images we hold of the world and the language we use actually create reality. (One study in this vein was one where teachers were told that particular kids in their class were extremely intelligent; actually they were average. By the end of the year, those kids were at the top of the class. The teacher's belief in their intelligence helped them to become smarter!)
We can use this phenomenon to become happier by choosing upbeat rather than negative or neutral words to describe ourselves and our situations. Begin by tracking the words you tend to use to describe yourself and your life. Are they negative, positive, or neutral? Then find positive synonyms for your negative words. Here are some examples: for nervous or worried, substitute concerned; for problem, use opportunity; for overwhelmed or tired, say challenged; for confused, try wondering.
Ryan, M.J. Instant Health And Happiness. Pg. 332.
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